If you’ve known me for any length of time, you know I constantly have an ARF (Angry Resting Face). It’s also no secret that upper elementary, middle, and high school were not great times for me. I went to college where hardly anyone from my hometown went to school (and like 5 people including myself from my own high school). I did this on purpose.
I know that I’m very fortunate to have two loving and supportive parents, a pretty good family, a great job, and so much more.
All of that doesn’t guarantee a person happiness, though. Something I’ve noticed about myself in quarantine is that I actually feel happiness. I know this past school year I’ve felt more continuously happy.
I do not believe there is a 100% foolproof method to become happy. Everyone has their own chemical (aka hormonal) makeup, thus one formula is impossible. However, these are the things that I’ve found that help me find and stay happy.
- Be passionate about what you do on a daily basis. If you don’t like your jobs or your hobby is causing you stress-figure out what is stressful about it, and change it. This year, I got to spend the year teaching Language Arts and Social Studies, two things I’m passionate about. I also started blogging more, and was accepted and started my grad program. Yes, do I do a lot of things that take up time. The key is these things bring me happiness.
- Surround yourself with people who love you for you. I don’t play the game of being a fake friend. If I’m in your life it is because I genuinely care about you. I will never be the person who has 50 friends and I’m okay with that because the people I am friends with I dedicate so much more to.
- Set attainable goals. For a while, I was setting goals that while attainable, I was not really in control of them. Did I want to be accepted to grad school? Yes. However, I can put the best application before the committee and might not have gotten in. I had no control over what the committee was looking for. What if they had too many applicants for that semester? I’m focused on the goals I control.
- Self-care. This one is probably the hardest for me because I do so much all the time. However, by giving myself even 5 minutes a day, I noticed a huge change. I will listen to podcasts in the afternoon coming home from school, I found cycle classes to be enjoyable and started going to them regularly.
- Being authentic. I did a whole post about how influencers seem to be upping their unauthentic game. Everything I’ve been doing, whether it is school related, blog related, friendship related, or something else I am being 100% me. Have I also been authentic? Yes. Am I doing more unapologetically now? Yes.